Donor

Well I said I'd write a new blog about our donor so here I am although I should be writing my essay's for our test tomorrow lol.
We have picked out our donor. This is one of the most difficult decisions in our life. I never in my wildest dreams would have thought that we would need one! Its so much to come to terms with.

When we first heard that we were going to need a donor back up Timmy flipped. He said he didn't want to do it and all of that. In my mind it was a back up but we will still have Timmy's sperm as first choice. I couldn't imagine what was going through his head.

As we talked more and more Timmy sorta came to terms with it as it's a back up plan.

As Timmy was having more and more tests done everything was coming up clear. It was looking as if Timmy didn't have any sperm and thats when I broke down. I couldn't take anymore. As healthy as TImmy is and as fine as everything was we still had no answers as to why the heck his sperm was low. I figured that this was the end as there was no more tests to be done, which meant it was looking like we could only use donor sperm. There are two surgeries which I mentioned in my last post. Except the fact that Timmy had the price wrong of the TESE. Its only $1,400.

We decided that we will have DS as back up, but if all goes well and Timmy just has blockage like the doctor says, then we won't need it, but it will be there so that we can still start our BCP in March and have our April IVF!

Many ask why go through with IVF if there is a surgery to correct Timmy's problem.

First IVF is cheaper route, plus we are already doing TESE and the sperm will be there if he has some, so we don't want that going to waste.
The other surgery is $20,000 dollars and the doctor doesn't believe that it's covered under our insurance since IVF isn't covered. Also with the other surgery Timmy would need to take off 6 weeks and we just can't afford that plus it would put us back to not even being able to try again til winter by the time we could get caught back up with him being off.

He will eventually go get the major surgery done before we decide to have another child, if we do. It will be a later time when that happens though.
So there is our story about how the SD works =)